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The Ex-factor
Before stepping out into a new relationship, look right, then left and look out for the ex!
I have a crush on Eamon Sullivan. Those long bronzed limbs, his chiselled six pack and that adorable lop sided smile is setting my heart a flutter. He may not have won gold in Beijing, but he's a lap ahead of any other contender in my book. Proof of my devotion lies in my lunch time dash to Myer's city centre the other day - I was on a mission to glance a sneak peak at the Olympian fresh off the plane from Beijing while he was fulfilling his duties as Davenport Ambassador. I elbowed my way through the crowd for a decent vantage point, and with my heart racing and palms sweating, I had my first in-the-flesh glimpse of the Aussie heart throb. At first, as I stared dreamily at my latest crush he seemed even better in real life, taller and less like a Ken-doll then I imagined. But then it dawned on me... it would never work, there was an obstacle in the way that would mean Eamon and I just couldn't be together.
No, it isn't the fact that he is from QLD and I am from Sydney, or that he swims laps for his livelihood and I can barely make 50 metres without swallowing mouthfuls of chlorinated water, or even the small circumstantial detail that we haven't as yet been introduced.
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The real problem, standing in the way of my happiness with Sullivan was sitting right next to him, flicking her hair over her shoulder and smiling coyly at the crowd; his ex Stephanie Rice. As I turned my back on Eamon, disheartened and disappointed, I knew I was doing the right thing. While I may be an eternal optimist and a true romantic at heart, past experience has taught me that no matter how handsome, talented, sweet or charming a new man can seem, if there is an ex in the picture trouble will soon follow.
Of course normally when starting afresh with a new lover you're rarely faced with such stiff competition, Australia's latest 'golden girl', three time gold medallist and A-grade Facebook celebrity, even the most ordinary of ex's have the potential to burst the romantic bubble of your new relationship. According to Andrew G. Marshall, marital therapist and author of I Love You But I'm Not in Love With You (Bloomsbury), "however much we want to make a fresh start, it's hard to throw off the past". "For many people, the legacy is a positive one, especially if the ex has helped them to feel safe and secure. However, if he or she was possessive, abusive or unfaithful, the past can cast a shadow over subsequent relationships."
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I have a crush on Eamon Sullivan. Those long bronzed limbs, his chiselled six pack and that adorable lop sided smile is setting my heart a flutter. He may not have won gold in Beijing, but he's a lap ahead of any other contender in my book. Proof of my devotion lies in my lunch time dash to Myer's city centre the other day - I was on a mission to glance a sneak peak at the Olympian fresh off the plane from Beijing while he was fulfilling his duties as Davenport Ambassador. I elbowed my way through the crowd for a decent vantage point, and with my heart racing and palms sweating, I had my first in-the-flesh glimpse of the Aussie heart throb. At first, as I stared dreamily at my latest crush he seemed even better in real life, taller and less like a Ken-doll then I imagined. But then it dawned on me... it would never work, there was an obstacle in the way that would mean Eamon and I just couldn't be together.
No, it isn't the fact that he is from QLD and I am from Sydney, or that he swims laps for his livelihood and I can barely make 50 metres without swallowing mouthfuls of chlorinated water, or even the small circumstantial detail that we haven't as yet been introduced.
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The real problem, standing in the way of my happiness with Sullivan was sitting right next to him, flicking her hair over her shoulder and smiling coyly at the crowd; his ex Stephanie Rice. As I turned my back on Eamon, disheartened and disappointed, I knew I was doing the right thing. While I may be an eternal optimist and a true romantic at heart, past experience has taught me that no matter how handsome, talented, sweet or charming a new man can seem, if there is an ex in the picture trouble will soon follow.
Of course normally when starting afresh with a new lover you're rarely faced with such stiff competition, Australia's latest 'golden girl', three time gold medallist and A-grade Facebook celebrity, even the most ordinary of ex's have the potential to burst the romantic bubble of your new relationship. According to Andrew G. Marshall, marital therapist and author of I Love You But I'm Not in Love With You (Bloomsbury), "however much we want to make a fresh start, it's hard to throw off the past". "For many people, the legacy is a positive one, especially if the ex has helped them to feel safe and secure. However, if he or she was possessive, abusive or unfaithful, the past can cast a shadow over subsequent relationships."
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